Your True Self: women againt sexism
I never imagined that I would travel through so many selves in one lifetime. If I could return to my 40-year-old self, the first thing I would tell her is “40 is not old! Considering you have only been an adult for twenty years, and you could very well live for another fifty or sixty years, you obviously have a skewed perception about age! Just relax and enjoy the ride!”
Where did I get the notion that women in their 30s, 40s, or even 50s were on the decline? When feminism emerged in the 1960‘s and women began to come into their power, ever more sexual ideals of beauty were aggressively used in the media to undermine that power. For the past fifty years women have been subtly, and not so subtly pressured to hold on to the youthful looks of their 20s. And while I never suspected that I could be influenced by the anti-aging advertisements or the ridiculously thin fashion models and movies stars that grace the pages of even Oprah’s magazine, those messages DO seep in!
Luckily, many women simply refuse to buy into the hype. When the Dove soap campaign began, they conducted a study to determine how women felt about themselves. About 17 percent of us felt more trapped than ever by the ideals of attractiveness; about 53 percent felt conflicted, and about 30 percent were committed to defining beauty for themselves.
UnTherapy is dedicated to the resurgence of the true self that is constantly at risk of being repressed, judged, abandoned, or buried beneath the pressures to be, do, and have it all. If you are quietly searching for the “pause” button that can quiet your mental chaos and return you to a place of calm, I invite you to pour yourself a cup of tea, cozy in to read some articles or view some videos on this site, and allow the call to your inner life, the return to your true self, to emerge.
Whether you have the world by a string or are barely hanging on by a thread, take pleasure in the refuge and beauty of your true self!